Why is this such a powerful idea for so many women? (Not for Louise, obviously, but for many!) Is it really just a woman thing, like the romance novels in which echoes of this kind of scenario are depicted, or is it an idea that stirs (some) men, too?
Obviously, no one here is suggesting that rape is a good thing. Please let's not get into a discussion about that again. Rape is wrong. Rapists should be stopped. We all agree.
Now (if anyone is interested) let's discuss the idea Mike posted, and in particular, what it is about it that is thrilling to some.
In my opinion, it has absolutely nothing to do with Nancy Friday's theory that it is the immature woman's need not to take responsibility for her own desires and actions. That, I think, is complete and utter rubbish. In my experience, it is women who have the courage to face their desires, even when they are inconvenient and unacceptable, who are drawn to the idea of rape. It takes a lot of courage to admit this, and conversations with men can be most uncomfortable, as I indicated in my article, When rape is a gift.
The enjoyment of ‘rape’ is, I think, a very primal thing. That kind of raw sex is powerfully intense, and surrendering to it sends one straight into subspace. It is dangerous, and not for everyone. If you play with fire, you have to expect to get burnt sometimes, and you can't blame anyone else for that. But for those of us who like this, getting burnt on occasion can be all part of the adventure.